Why are the people who make the most excuses often times the ones who have so many complaints?
Why are the most successful individuals not focusing certain aspects of life that would drive other people crazy!?
Locus of control is the term used to describe ones attitude towards their ability to change a situation or event.
Individuals with an internal locus of control believe that they have a high sense of power with their ability to effect the world around them. On the other hand, people with an external locus of control believe that the world is the way it is and they don't have much power to effect the things around them.
People with an internal locus of control will get a failing test grade back and say "well my mom was never good at math either, I guess it just isn't for me."
The student sitting next to them who got an even worse grade says "I guess I'll have to go to the tutor and study more" is the one with the internal locus of control.
Having an external locus of control is quite awesome at first because nothing is your fault! It's just the way it is. Hint: progress never happens when you do this, DON'T DO THIS!
We all know that our attitudes are everything. To answer the questions at the top, the most successful individuals (and happiest) not only have an internal locus of control, but they are extremely good at deciphering between choices and circumstances.
You control your choices in life. You control who you marry, most of your environment, your bad habits, your job, your dogs name, and your clothes. These are the parts of life that can be strategically adjusted to bring about positive change.
Circumstances are things that are in your life and you have very little to no control over. You can't control the fact that your skin is black, your dad is an alcoholic, or that there might just be a secret shadow government that is in almost full control of the worlds money supply trying divide us as humans so they can create a one world supremacy.
Successful people don't waste time fussing over the circumstances. They are too busy making choices to create positive change in their lives and the world at large.
Lessons to be learned
1.)Shift into an internal locus of control
2.) Know your options. Change it, leave it, or accept it.
3.) Ask yourself; is this a part of my life I can control? If so, DO something!